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Top 5 Wedding Planning Tips (I Learned the Hard Way)

I am still in full on glowing honeymoon land, but I can’t help reflecting on what I learned about weddings when planning my own. I learned a lot, but really wish someone had clued me into certain lessons before now. That’s why I’m so excited to share my top 5 wedding planning tips.

Via AJ Dunlap

1. Delegate. Delegate. Delegate.
Somehow I only learned this one with about a month left in the planning process. Honestly, considering how much I like to be in control it’s pretty remarkable I learned it at all. Delegating to people you can trust early on will save you a lot of stress later as you scramble to get stuff done. I’m not saying you should give other people big responsibilities like finding a wedding photographer Blacksburg or a venue but there are smaller tasks that once they’re out the way, will make your life much easier. For example, my mom kept asking me about flowers and I did not have the mental energy to deal with ordering them. I delegated it to her! Boom. Done. Gorgeous flowers showed up at my wedding without me having to do anything! My dad kept hassling me about transport, so I suggested that he contacted a company like Limo Service NJ and he sorted everything for me. Delegate as much as you can guys!

2. Edit yourself.
Pinterest is wonderful place full of ideas and projects. Pinterest is also a black hole of ideas and projects. I had all the greatest ideas in the world for the big day and a to do list that resembled the phone book. When I was really honest with myself about my free time and just how much of it I wanted to spend on the wedding, I found things falling off that list quickly. Would the hand-painted aisle runner be pretty? Yes. But was it essential to me being happy with the day as a whole? No. I edited that Pinterest board like there was no tomorrow and didn’t feel like I was missing anything.

3. Learn to say no.
People love weddings and people have lots of ideas about what makes a good one. I think it’s important to have people contribute those ideas, but you need to make sure you keep the day about you and your significant other. If you have your mind set on an outdoor wedding venue Virginia for example then don’t feel compelled to compromise because a family member suggested a church or somewhere “closer to X”. If something doesn’t mesh with your idea of what the day should be, don’t be afraid to say no! As long as it’s done politely, you won’t hurt anyone’s feelings and it spares you being unhappy while riding in on horseback to a ceremony overlooking an amusement park. Ultimately, your big day should be about celebrating the bond between you and your partner. If you are considering an intimate ceremony or eloping, then you might also want to consider contacting an elopement and wedding planning specialist such as Adventure Instead.

4. Get organized early.
I cannot express in strong enough words just how beautiful Excel spreadsheets are. I had a tab for each topic related to the wedding including the budget, keeping track of RSVPs, comparing different vendors, planning the music, etc. I even compared a few different wedding party rental firms like this one in Sugar Land, TX rentals to make sure I was getting everything I needed for our party at an affordable price! It saved me so many headaches and quite a few pieces of paper. It also made it convenient when I visited vendors because I had all of my information in one spot. You should also be sure to organize a photographer well in advance of the big day, as events photographers can often be booked up for months at a time. Getting married in New York? Follow the link to check out Olga Topchii, a professional photographer from NYC.

5. Pad the budget.
Weddings are expensive. I think I underestimated just how expensive they actually are. If I could do the whole thing over, I would create a more accurate budget with some significant padding. So many things cost more than I anticipated or I splurged where I didn’t think I would. For example, when I had the best wedding photographer Indianapolis has come and photograph my wedding, there were so many good photos I couldn’t choose my favorites, so I ended up buying a bigger photo package that of course, cost more money. I’m glad I spent that money because now I have so many lovely photos of my wedding, I just wish I had planned for it. If I’d padded that budget a little more, I think I would have been in better shape. Speaking of budgeting, you might also want to use the wedding planning process as a time to think about putting together a prenuptial agreement. We all have assets that need protection nowadays, and therefore for a lot of couples, a prenup can provide peace of mind. To learn more about the benefits of signing a prenup, why not try contacting a team of Los Angeles prenup attorneys? In this day and age, you can never be too safe where your assets are concerned.

Bonus: remember the point of the day.
I didn’t necessarily learn this the hard way, but I found myself constantly repeating it over and over in my head. It was my mantra for when things seemed especially difficult: as long as A and I are married at the end of the day, it will be fine. And you know what? It was.

I’m linking up with Kristyn today!

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